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Backing Out as a Bridesmaid (or Groomsman) Hero Label

Backing Out as a Bridesmaid (or Groomsman)

If serious economic crisis or other serious circumstances cause you to reconsider your role as an attendant, let the bride and groom know immediately. While the news may be upsetting at first, perhaps there will be a way for them to help you out so that you can still fill your role. Attempting to back out for any reason other than an economic, health, or family crisis beyond your control is a risky move and generally not advised. Talk to the couple about any concerns, and things will usually work themselves out.