In today’s highly mobile society, it’s not so unusual for people to move into a neighborhood almost without being noticed. Even so, being hospitable to newcomers is a time-honored American tradition. Whether you are welcoming the new household on the block or you are the new household on the block, here are tips for making a good first impression:
Meeting New Neighbors
Calling on new neighbors is one of those rare instances when dropping by unannounced is good manners. If you see your new neighbor in his yard, go over and say “hello” or knock on his door and introduce yourself. You might be invited in, or not if they aren’t ready for “company,” but either way keep the visit short. The goal is simple: To welcome them and exchange names and perhaps telephone numbers. If you become aware of newcomers weeks or even months after they move in, you can still knock on the door and introduce yourself; there’s no statute of limitations.
Welcome Gifts and Offers to Help
A welcome-to-the-neighborhood gift will brighten the newcomer’s day and ease the hassle of settling in. Typically, gifts are homey and inexpensive: a plate of cookies, a bouquet of garden flowers, a stack of (new) local take-out menus, or an extra phone book.
Offers of assistance require sensitivity to a new neighbor’s actual needs. In most cases, you’re a stranger to your new neighbors, and some may not feel comfortable accepting your well-intentioned offer to help. If you make an offer, say when you’ll be available and what you can do. Let new neighbors know you’re happy to answer questions and give directions. Information about schools, places of worship, town services, restaurants, grocery stores, good places to shop, and reliable service providers is always useful.
What Doesn’t Help
It isn’t helpful to impose on your new neighbor’s time, gossip about other neighbors, or in any way badmouth the neighborhood.
When You’re the New Neighbor
Who makes the first contact when someone moves into a neighborhood? It really doesn’t matter who takes the first step. When you see a neighbor fetching the mail or recognize a person from the neighborhood when you’re out, take a few moments to smile and introduce or identify yourself. Regardless of who makes the first move, meeting and greeting is a fundamental of good manners.
As a newcomer, you’re likely to be on the receiving end of gifts, advice, and helping hands. It’s certainly okay to decline help politely if you don’t need it right then or postpone visits until you’re a little more settled. But do be sure to show your appreciation to your new neighbors for their thoughtfulness.
Welcome to Our New Home
A housewarming is one of the few parties you can throw for yourself. A casual affair such as a backyard barbecue is an excellent opportunity to introduce neighbors to your family and old friends. Be sure to include next-door neighbors and anyone you see regularly.
Establishing Your Boundaries
When you move into a new neighborhood, you may wish to establish your willingness or unwillingness to participate in neighborhood activities or organizations. When asked, it’s fine to state what you will or won’t do. On the other hand, it’s smart to show support for your community and to participate when you can. You can maintain your privacy without being seen as standoffish. By attending the occasional block party or association get-together, you’ll meet people and your neighbors will appreciate your presence.