Etiquette Everyday ~ Special Occasions
Mother's Day:
Gifting Etiquette for Mom and Mom-like figures in your life
Mother’s Day. It’s the time to honor Mom, of course; but for many of us there are other people in our lives who fulfill that caring role.
Who are the special “mothers” in your life? This is a perfect time to stop and acknowledge the supportive and nurturing role they play. It’s a way to say, “Thank-you. I appreciate all you do for me.”
Do you recognize anyone on this list?
- Your aunt who took you to the theater, ballet, movies or book store when you were young and introduced you to some of the finer things in life. Let her know you how special those outings still are to you.
- Your grandmother who ALWAYS sends you a card with a check on your birthday, no matter how old you are.
- The mother of your best friend from high school whose home and dinner table you spent countless nights at as a teenager. Let her know you remember how she made you feel like part of the family.
Mother’s Day is also a wonderful time to recognize other moms you’re thinking of.
For example:
- Your sister-in-law with the brood of four kids all under the age of six. How does she do it? Let her know you’re thinking of her and that you’re impressed with the formidable task she’s pulling off everyday. Send her: Chocolates, a beautiful scarf, wine, bubble bath, or flowers.
- The woman down the street who recently lost her son. Let her know that you’re thinking of her during what will be a very painful time.
- Your mother-in-law who defies all the stereotypes by being one of your best friends.
- Your good friend who’s expecting her first baby after years of trying. Remind her to enjoy eight-hours-in-a-row of sleep while she still can. Send her: an eye pillow or heavenly scented flowers.
- The mom whose son is stationed in Iraq for a 12-month tour. Let her know you’re thinking of her. Better yet, purchase Mother’s Day cards and send them to soldiers in remote areas so that they can send Mom a card.
Peggy Post’s Top Tips for Picking the Perfect Mother’s Day Gift
Trust your judgment.
Forget about being afraid the gift isn’t “perfect.” If you think the person will like it, chances are she will.
Stick to your budget.
Spending more than you should takes the fun out of gift giving. There’s nothing more stressful than overspending—and feeling uneasy about it.
Buy it when you see it.
If you’re shopping in July and see a sweater that your mother would love, buy it. It may not be there when you’re shopping for the occasion.
Sentimental gifts never go out of style.
Get a digital picture frame and load with great pictures of your family. Write a poem. Get a mushy card. Send her flowers, the number one Mother’s Day gift choice.
Chipping In for Mom
Q. For Mother's Day, my siblings and I usually give a group gift. This year, we want to get Mom a dishwasher, but our older brother thinks that's too expensive. How can we get him to chip in?
A. Choose a mediator (perhaps the sibling he's closest to) who can get a feel for what's going on. Is your brother a tightwad, or is he just strapped for cash? If he's broke, not cheap, maybe he could be allowed to contribute less than the rest of you do this year. Or, you could ask him to suggest less expensive gifts that she might like just as much. If there's no good compromise, however, tell your brother you're proceeding with the dishwasher plan. Deliver the present to your mother when your brother isn't there so he won’t feel awkward and give her a card signed by those who did contribute.
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