Thank Yous: A Kind Gesture

Q. Is it proper etiquette to give your daughter’s godparents a gift to thank them? If so, what are suitable gifts for this situation?

A. It is certainly appropriate to do so, but not considered obligatory. Any way that you choose to thank them for fulfilling their duties as godparents is a wonderful gesture, but it need not be elaborate. Anything from a flower arrangement to a simple heartfelt thank you note will do.

Tipping: New Services, More Tips

Q. We recently ordered a carry out meal from a restaurant that offers curbside pick-up. When the employee brought out our order, he acted as if he expected a tip, which we did not feel he had earned simply by bringing our food to the car. What do you recommend in this kind of situation?

A. This service is a relatively new but growing phenomenon. Since the “waiter” is performing a personal service for you, so you do not have to leave your car in bad weather, or get children out of the car, it would qualify as a “tipping” situation. We recommend tipping $1 – $2.

Condolence Cards: Thank You Notes, A Must

Q. A close friend recently lost her husband. There was a massive amount of people at his funeral and she received close to 200 mass cards, many of which did not include the sender’s address. Do thank you notes need to be sent in response to mass cards?

A. Thank you notes should always be sent for condolence cards, mass cards, flowers, donations, and other acts of kindness. The one exception is if the cards have no personal message written by the sender, then no thank you note is needed.

Formal Titles: On the Use of Ms.

Q. I am a 25-year-old woman and have never been married. My boyfriend and I recently received a wedding invitation, addressed to the both of us, with my name printed as ‘Ms. Erin McCants’. The bride-to-be’s return envelopes were addressed using ‘Miss’ as her title. I thought that young women, never married, were always referred to as ‘Miss’ not ‘Ms.’. Have the rules changed?

A. Nowadays, the title “Ms.” is used when people are unsure of one’s marital status, or when one is unsure of how a woman chooses to be referred to. “Ms.” is appropriate for either a never-married, unmarried, married, divorced, or widowed woman!

A New Home on Facebook for The Etiquette Daily

After eight years of almost daily etiquette posting, the Etiquette Daily is making a move to a new home and format. We are going to transition the daily etiquette Q&A blog post by The Emily Post Institute from our website to our The Emily Post Institute Facebook page. We hope that you will continue the conversation that has been going on here for so long at the new location.

LINK — The Emily Post Institute Facebook page

We are excited! This is something that the Web team has been planning for quite a while. We love The Etiquette Daily and the dedicated group of followers and commenters who make it such a vibrant community. We feel your passion for and curiosity about the subject of contemporary etiquette and look forward to sharing that spirit over on our Facebook Page.

There are two big reasons for making this move:

One, we love to host a conversation about etiquette and we think that Facebook is one of the best places to do this. They have the tools to help us manage and grow the discussion in ways that we simply cannot on our home site. It is also a place where the discussion about etiquette can spill out beyond our dedicated audience and into a much larger pool of potential contributors.

Two, we want The Emily Post website to be the single best source for etiquette information online. To serve that end we need to be very focused on posting clear and easy to find content about certain etiquette topics. The daily posting about all manner of etiquette on the Etiquette Daily makes this task very difficult. The conversational nature of the daily Q&A’s and highly descriptive titles makes it hard for our site search to identify the articles that we write addressing certain topics and differentiate them from Etiquette Daily posts that address similar subjects. It is complicated to explain and it is complicated for site searches and readers as well. This move will reduce that confusion and help the rest of our site function much better.

That’s it. We will continue to hold this space open for the next week and a half (though Jan. 12th). We will also start to post a daily Q&A over on The Emily Post Institute Facebook page. Please head over and take a look and tell us what you think. See you there.