Q. My husband’s aunt is a widow and is getting married next month. She is thrilled but my husband’s family is so so. We accepted the wedding invitation. She going all the way with this (wearing a white dress and crown, having a bridal party and also a big reception). What do we give as a gift? cash or gift? It is in a catering hall and we’re a little confused. We are happy but it’s still hard knowing your uncle is not there anymore.
Her daughter is also giving her a pre wedding dinner (informal bridal shower). Also what do I bring to that?
A. If you gave a gift to either the bride or the groom at their first wedding you are not obligated to give another wedding gift, although you may if you want to. In that case, the gift can be creative and fun, as it would be if the couple was already fairly established with “things” and is not registered, and you have not given either a wedding gift before. For example, if the couple enjoys gardening or outdoor life, golf, movies, theater, tennis, travel – or other pastimes, a great gift is something in support of those interests, whether movie tickets or his and her golf gloves. Other gifts could be flowers of the month for a few months, having their invitation matted and framed for their wall, a gourmet cooking class or ballroom dancing lessons for the two of them to attend together, playlists made by you for their listening pleasure, a collection of movies in a basket with some microwave popcorn and a bottle of wine, engraved stationery in their names – it’s a nice time to be creative and thoughtful in a gift selection.
You could also use the above suggestions for the bridal shower gift.