Weddings ~ Engagements
Congratulations!
You're Engaged!
1. Share the good
news
Your parents-and any children you may have from a previous union-should
hear the news first. Then comes other relatives and close friends.
Whether you do it in person or over the phone, do it yourself.
Those closest to you will no doubt be hurt to hear the news second
hand. Never announce an engagement until a former union has been
dissolved, whether by divorce or annulment.
2. Meet the parents
Your engagement should not come as a shock to your parents. Obviously,
it's a good idea to get acquainted while you're dating. Your engagement
certainly signifies a change in the relationship with your fiancé's/fiancée's
parents. Now's the time to lay the foundation for a positive bond
with your future in-laws. This is also when the parents of the
bride meet-or at least make contact with-the parents of the groom.
Traditionally, the groom's parents call the bride's parents to
introduce themselves and extend an invitation to meet. However,
that first contact can also be made by the bride's parents.
3. Make the guest
list & set the budget
Your budget is the determining factor for the shape, size and
fanfare of your wedding. But you cannot decide the type of wedding
you will have until you have some idea of the size of the guest
list. The easiest way to cut costs is to narrow your guest list.
4. Pick the date
The time of year you have your wedding is a key consideration.
The most popular months for weddings are June, September, August,
May, October and July. Popular wedding sites will be at a premium
in terms of availability and cost during these times. Those who
want an outdoor wedding will want to be married in the warmer
months. If guests will have to travel to attend your wedding,
you'll want to select a date that's convenient for traveling.
5. Don't forget
the three C's
Not clarity, cut or color. We're talking about consideration,
communication and compromise. How you handle your wedding plans
can foretell how you will handle the other major decision of your
life together. Along with the stress that will accompany the big
decisions and little details should be a sense of adventure and
fun. You are celebrating one of the most joyous milestones in
your lives. Do so with a focus on consideration, communication
and compromise and the process is sure to be smoother.
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