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All About Toasting

Toasts can range from the most routine – “To us!” – to the most touching – an homage from the father of the bride that can make grown men cry.  The following is a guide to toasting basics:

  • At a dinner party, it’s the host or hostess’s prerogative to give the first toast.
  • If a host doesn’t offer a toast, a guest may propose a toast saluting the hosts.
  • Typically, toasts are proposed as soon as the wine, Champagne, or other beverage is served – usually at the beginning of the meal, or just before dessert.
  • The person proposing the toast stands, or raises a glass and asks for everyone’s attention before launching into the toast.
  • At the conclusion of the toast, everyone except the honoree(s) raises their glasses and drinks.
  • The honoree acknowledges the toast with a smile or nod.
  • No need for everyone to drain their glasses during a toast – a sip will do just fine.
  • You don’t need an alcoholic beverage to propose or drink to a toast.

Prepared Toasts

If you’re going to deliver more than the simplest toast, it’s a good idea to prepare it beforehand and mentally rehearse so you don’t fumble over the words.  Keep is short, positive, and to the point.  A touch of humor is acceptable, but keep it clean; stories that might embarrass the honoree are off-limits.

Spur-of-the-Moment Toasts

If the mood is right, it’s lovely to give an informal toast to good friends around the table.  The best toasts are short and come from the heart.  If you’re stuck, try to tie the toast to the occasion.

  • “To Suzanne—a terrific hostess and a fabulous cook.”
  • “To Anya: May each birthday find you among good friends.”
  • “To Phil—a great boss who will be an even better VP.  Congratulations.”
  • “To the class of ’12—the smartest and best-looking by far!”

Peggy’s Top Tips for Toasting 

1. The host goes first

Traditionally, the host or hostess offers the first toast. The more informal the occasion the less this tenet applies. Around a dinner table with friends, a guest can propose the first toast and often does as a way of thanking the host for bringing everyone together. The host toasts first rule does still apply at wedding receptions and other large functions.

2. Rise to the occasion

The person delivering the toast stands (the exception: a small, informal occasion). Everyone else—include the person being toasted—remains seated, unless the toaster instructs everyone to do otherwise—“Please stand and raise your glass to the happy couple…”

3. The response

When toasted, the “toastee” does not stand, nor drink to herself. Once the toast is finished, she simply rises, bows her acknowledgement, and says thank you. She may also raise her own glass to propose a toast to the host and anyone else she wants to honor.

4. Prepare

Keep it short and to the point. You want the spotlight to stay on the toastee, not you. Tie what you say to the event that is being celebrated. Write out what you will say ahead of time and practice. Don’t let nerves bother you—speak clearly and with confidence.

5. Aim for sincerity over eloquence

Including a few personal remarks—a reminiscence, praise, or a relevant story or joke—is good, but keep with the emotion of the occasion. Lean toward sentimentality at a wedding, nostalgia for a retiring employee. A touch of humor is rarely out of place. Express your feelings.

Sample Toasts for Spring and Summer Occasions

A Toast to Health & Happiness

”Here’s to good cheer, health and happiness for us all.”

A Toast to the Host

”To Melinda, a true friend, great hostess and terrific cook.”

A Toast to Mom

“Here’s to my loving mother. How can you thank someone for the thousands of things they have done for you day in and day out your entire life? Thank you, Mom!”

A Toast to Dad

”To Dad, for all of your love, support—and patience!—over the years.

A Toast to the Graduate

“To Jennifer, as she accomplishes one goal—graduating from college—and begins the task of seeking out new goals, new dreams to follow. May success and happiness follow her through each endeavor.”

A Toast to the Bride & Groom

“To Alexis and John—may they always be as happy as they are today.”