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Can You Steer Your Mom's Choice of Dress?

I love my mother dearly, but I'm often mortified by the things she wears. So I'd like to steer her choice of wedding-day attire without offending her. Any suggestions?

It's important for your mother to feel good in what she wears on your wedding day, so above all you need to be prepared to graciously accept her own sense of style. That said, you could suggest a mother-daughter outing during which you shop for her ensemble and perhaps run other wedding-related errands. Stop by a few of her favorite stores, then be ready to offer impartial comments and suggestions such as, "How about trying this dress? I have a feeling it will look great on you," or "I'm not sure that's the best color for you. Maybe this blue would be better." If the two of you live in different cities, you could also make recommendations by emailing her links to looks she'd like—and you could live with.