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Only a quarter of all weddings are now paid for exclusively by the bride’s parents, while up to seventy percent of weddings are paid for either by the couple or some combination of the bride’s and groom’s parents. Whatever the division of expenses you settle on, the key to avoiding misunderstandings is to have a clear discussion at the start of the planning process regarding how much each party is prepared to contribute.
It's okay not to commit a number the first time money comes up; this can be a serious financial undertaking. If you are interested in contributing to your child's wedding, start thinking about a budget number you would be comfortable offering soon after the engagement is announced.
Don’t keep mum about money. As parents of the bride, the key to ironing out the financial details of your daughter’s wedding is for you and your spouse to communicate openly with the couple at the very start of the process regarding exactly what sort of monetary contribution you’re willing and able to make toward the wedding. You can be a tremendous help simply by initiating the budget conversation, if it hasn’t come up already—even if you are only contributing a small amount, or none at all. Keep the discussion within your immediate family, however; the idea that the groom’s parents might contribute to the cost of the wedding as well is best broached by the groom directly (and privately) with his parents.