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Is It Okay to Ask for Money?

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There are lots of ways to get the word out

The tried-and-true method of telling people what you'd like for wedding presents is word of mouth. It's a good idea for couples to provide their parents, their attendants and those close to them with a list of registry sources or, as in your case, let them know cash is preferable. But remember that there's no dictating to guests what they must give; it's their prerogative to choose. If you're asked directly, be honest and polite: Say, "We're saving for a down payment on a house, so if you'd like to give a check, that's how we'll use it. But whatever you decide will be terrific. Thank you for thinking of us." Cash presents are perfectly acceptable--as long as the guests feel comfortable with the idea. Some people just don't like giving money, and that's okay too. For this reason it's a good idea to set up a traditional registry--even if it has only a few items on it--so guests have a sense of what you like and need.