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Perfect Parties by the Lake

What could be more perfect than a party by the lake? And, most places, you don’t have to go far to find one. A great setting for a Jack and Jill shower or a combined bachelor/bachelorette party.

Croquet anyone?

Although purists will go for the perfectly flat pitch, croquet can be played “country style” as well. Any closely mowed lawn area will do, and bumps and detours only add to the fun. Attire: Sundresses, hats and sandals for the girls; casual shirt and khakis for the guys. Shower Theme: Games of course! Indoor or outdoor, from lawn bowling to Scrabble, every couple needs a good supply. Refreshments: Start with the basics—homemade lemonade and iced tea—and go from there: lemon drops or Long Island Iced Tea.

Afternoon Cruise

A classic launch to cruise the lake, stop for a picnic at a hidden cove and then home as the sun sets. Attire: Casual—boat shoes, swim suit and towel. Shower Theme: Picnics! Every couple has a romantic picnic in their future: Picnic basket, cutlery, plates, glassware, napkins; corkscrew; coolers, portable chairs, candles, Frisbee, blanket, wine, gourmet food items… Refreshments: Something easy and transportable—shrimp shooters, canapés, deviled eggs, beer and wine and ice tea, packaged in “signature” bottles. ***Make sure you have a designated captain. The "no drinking and driving" rules are the same whether you are on the road or on the water. And life jackets are the boat version of seat belts.


Start your bachelor(ette) party at the driving range. No pressure to put that little ball in the hole or wear ugly golf shoes! Party favors: Ties for the guys and sandals or totes for the girls. Refreshments: Ice cream and cake! Luscious ice cream in chocolate sugar cones, cupcakes. If you have a color scheme, you have lots of options here!