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Second Shower?

It's okay to have a shower for an encore wedding, as long as you are careful with the guest list. People who were invited to your previous showers should not be invited again, with the exception of your mom, of course, and very close relatives and friends who you know would want to be there. Your new friends may also be invited, as well as your fiancé's family members. If he has been married before, the guest list should not include his relatives or friends who attended any showers for his first wife, unless they are especially close to him or you. For couples who may already have all of the basic necessities, food showers, garden showers, or other themed showers may be more appropriate than traditional showers. Monogram showers are also a good option. Or, instead of a shower, your attendants might rather have a small luncheon or tea for you--sans gifts.