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The Rehearsal Dinner

The rehearsal dinner has become a popular tradition of the wedding weekend. It's a time to celebrate and savor the upcoming wedding in a relaxed atmosphere, without the pomp and ceremony reserved for the wedding day. Everyone arrives fresh and excited to start the wedding festivities, and since rehearsal dinners are often limited to the couple's closest friends and family, the atmosphere is more personal and private than the wedding reception.

When is the rehearsal dinner held?

The rehearsal dinner generally takes place the evening before the wedding, regardless of when the wedding rehearsal is held. Then again, there's no rule that says the event has to be a dinner—it could be a brunch or luncheon following a rehearsal scheduled earlier in the day.  

Who hosts?  

It is customary, but not obligatory, for the groom's family to host the rehearsal party. If the groom's family chooses not to host, then it's fine for the bride's family, or the bride and groom to do so. It's also perfectly fine for the two families to host together.

How can the bride and groom help?   

Since they are the common link between the two families, the couple can be instrumental in arranging a time for everyone to talk about the rehearsal dinner plans, in person or over the phone. The groom's family will need to know:

Who is invited?

The guest list at a rehearsal dinner should include the members of the wedding party and their spouses, fiancé(e)s, or significant others; the officiant and his or her spouse or partner; the parents, stepparents, and grandparents of the bride and groom; and any siblings of the bride and groom who are not in the wedding party. If single members of the wedding party were invited to bring a guest to the wedding, then it's kind to include the guest at the rehearsal dinner, too. Any children of the bride and groom from a previous marriage are invited, unless they are too young.  Parents of young attendants, such as a flower girl or ring bearer, are also included.

What type of invitation should be extended?

Depending on the size and formality of the event, invitations may be printed, written on informal or fill-in cards, or may simply be handwritten, phoned or emailed. A physical invitation serves as a tangible reminder of the date, time, and address of the party. It's a good idea to include directions to the party and RSVP information, usually a phone number or email address. Send invitations three to six weeks in advance.

What happens during the dinner?

The focus of the dinner is for the wedding party and the two families to relax, enjoy each other's company, and celebrate the bride and groom and the joining of two families. Sometimes, this will be the first time that the two families meet. It's important for the couple and their parents to make sure that everyone is introduced to each other. Traditionally, this dinner is highlighted by toasts, toasts, and more toasts!

The rehearsal dinner is one of the high points of most weddings.

Held right or soon after the wedding rehearsal (generally the night before the wedding day), it brings together the bride and groom's families and the wedding party, and sometimes close friends from out of town. It's customary for the groom's family to host the rehearsal party—but if the groom's family chooses not to give the rehearsal dinner, it's fine for the bride's family to arrange one. Similarly, it's perfectly appropriate for the two families—and perhaps the bride and groom—to split the cost. If the dinner is taking place in the bride's hometown, the bride's parents can be a great help by offering suggestions on possible sites.

Where to hold it?

For the convenience of the wedding party and guests, the dinner should be held somewhere fairly close to the ceremony site and the venue should be reserved as soon as the dates of the wedding and wedding rehearsal have been determined. Consider renting a room in a private club that does its own catering, or reserving a private room in a restaurant. A catered dinner in a private home is also a popular option. For example, hometown friends of the bride's family might offer their house (or yard, or beach) for the dinner, with the groom's family (or whoever is hosting) paying for the catering, service staff, and cleanup. Mainly, you want a place where the wedding party and close family can come together, relax, and focus on what each person has to say, because the toasts and anecdotes are likely to fly!

What's the style?

A rehearsal dinner can range from a formal or semiformal sit-down dinner or buffet to a beach-side clambake or picnic. The goal is to have a relaxed, convivial time, toast the bride and groom, and share some food, drink, and laughter before the whirlwind of the wedding day. The only rule: the rehearsal should never be more formal or more lavish than the wedding reception.

Who's invited?

The rehearsal dinner guest list includes: When single attendants have been invited to bring a date to the wedding, it's kind to include their dates at the rehearsal dinner. At larger gatherings, aunts, uncles, nieces, and nephews of the bride and groom are frequently included as well. After that, any number of people may be invited, including out-of-town guests, close friends, and godparents—if you want a larger group at this dinner.

What about invitations?

Invitations are usually written on informal or fill-in cards, but they could also be printed. Handwritten notes, a phone call, or e-mail are other options. Do include RSVP information, usually a phone number or e-mail address, and a reply-by date if needed. Send invitations three to six weeks in advance and include directions.