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Wedding Attendants

bridal party lined up at a wedding

As an attendant, whether you are a bridesmaid or groomsman, you have been chosen to be a loving, supportive witness to the couple's marriage. Although attendants' duties will vary based on the size and style of the event, here is a brief overview of certain tasks common to most weddings.

Typical Responsibilities of Attendants

  • Pay for their wedding attire and accessories (excluding flowers).
  • Arrange and pay for their own transportation. (Wedding hosts should provide the accommodations.)
  • Be timely and communicative regarding travel arrangements and acquiring attire.
  • Understand the specific duties involved (see below).
  • Arrive at specified times for all wedding-related events.
  • Attend the rehearsal and rehearsal dinner; attend other pre-wedding events when feasible.
  • Give an individual wedding gift to the couple, or contribute to a group gift from all the attendants.
  • Assist the bride and groom whenever possible.
  • Be attentive to other guests at the wedding and reception.

Specific Duties

Maid or Matron of Honor

  • Helps the bride select the bridesmaids' attire.
  • Organizes the bridesmaids' gift to the bride.
  • Makes sure bridesmaids have their attire.
  • Holds the groom's wedding ring and the bride's bouquet during the ceremony.
  • Witnesses the signing of the marriage certificate.
  • Stands in the receiving line, if there is one.
  • Helps the bride during the reception (gathering guests for the cake cutting, dancing, the bouquet toss).
  • Helps the bride change into her going-away clothes, and takes care of the bride's wedding dress and accessories after the reception.

Nice, but optional:

  • Helps address invitations and place cards.
  • Assists in hosting or organizing a pre-wedding party, if the bridesmaids decide to have one.


  • Attend the bridesmaids' luncheon, if there is one.
  • Supervise flower girl(s) and ring bearer(s) if asked.
  • Assist the bride at the reception as requested.
  • Participate in activities such as a receiving line and a bouquet toss.
  • Contribute to the bridesmaids’ gift to the bride.

Nice, but optional:

  • Host a shower, bridesmaids’ luncheon, bachelorette, or other pre-wedding party or get-together.

Best Man

  • Coordinates the groomsmen and ushers' gift to the groom.
  • Organizes the bachelor party for the groom, if there is one.
  • Makes sure that the groom's wedding-related payments are prepared; delivers prearranged payments to officiants, assistants, musicians, and singers at the ceremony.
  • Sees that the groomsmen and ushers arrive on time and are properly attired.
  • Instructs the ushers in the correct seating of guests.
  • Keeps the bride's wedding ring during the ceremony.
  • Witnesses the signing of the marriage certificate.
  • Drives the bride and groom to the reception if there's no hired driver; has the car ready for the couple to leave after the reception and may drive them to their next destination.
  • Offers a toast to the bride and groom at the reception; dances with the bride, the mothers, the maid of honor, and other single female guests.
  • Gathers and takes care of the groom's wedding clothes (returning rental items on the next business day).

Groomsmen and Ushers

  • Attend the bachelor party, if there is one.
  • Contribute to the ushers' gift to the groom.
  • Lay the aisle runner, if one is used, before the processional.
  • Greet guests and escort them to their seats.
  • Know the seating order; review special seating arrangements prior to the ceremony.
  • Hand each guest a program, if programs are provided.
  • Remove pew ribbons, close windows, re-roll the aisle runner, retrieve any programs or articles left behind after the ceremony.
  • Help guests who need directions to the reception site.
  • Be on hand to assist any guests who are infirm or disabled.
  • Dance with the bride, the mothers, the bridesmaids, and other single female guests.
  • Coordinate the return of rental clothing with the head usher or best man.