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When a Bridesmaid Bails

If this happens before you announce your attendants' names, or before the programs have been printed, you may ask someone else. It is incorrect to ask anyone to fill in at the last minute, as it may make the fill-in feel second-best, but there are exceptions. For example, you might ask a close friend who would understand and would be honored to help out. However, it is fine to simply have one less bridesmaid, even if it means there won't be the same number of bridesmaids and groomsmen.