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Working Long-Distance with a Venue Planner

Give her the benefit of the doubt—it's possible that she thinks she's helping by not bothering you. Decide what you want input on—for example, the look of your tables—and leave other tasks, such as where to set up the band, to her. Ask the planner to contact you before making final decisions on the items you care about most, and let her know that an email is a welcome intrusion. (It also gives you a written record of decisions.) Then be courteous and prompt in responding to keep planning on track.